TREND: FOODS TO GET IN THE MOOD

Foods that get you in the mood don’t only include oysters anymore… There are other, everyday foods that you may already have at home that are also aphrodisiacs.

Avocados are great for your sex drive! The way they look, taste, and feel all contribute to the fruit turning you on. Serving it in a salad with pine nuts, another aphrodisiac, will really show its potential.

There is also Maca powder. It comes from a root vegetable with origins in Peru, and can be easily added to breads, coffee, or cakes! Chris Kilham, author of Hot Plants: Nature's Proven Sex Boosters for Men and Women says Maca is “a powerful sex enhancer. The only complaint I’ve ever heard about maca is, ‘I had to stop taking the stuff because I was too horny.’”

Ginger thins the blood and helps you respond to sexual stimulation. It also aids in digestion, helping increase libido after a heavy meal. Using the spice in stir fries is a great way to add excitement to vegetables.

Its phallic shape is what makes asparagus one of these foods as well. When digested, the vegetable stimulates the urinary tract, which in turn can cause a “little itch down there.”

Of course, oysters are the aphrodisiac we all know and love. The sexual experience comes from eating the actual oyster. The mollusk is high in zinc, also elevating libido levels. “For many people, the feel of oysters in your mouth is genuinely arousing,” Kilham says. “It’s an extraordinary thing to put in your mouth.”

Last but not least, Chocolate. Cocoa stimulates dopamine and serotonin, the feel good hormones, as well as Phenylethylamine: the chemical released by the brain when falling in love. Chocolate not only feels good to eat but the melting sensation in your mouth is enough to give you a good feeling.

SEX: HOW MANY TIMES A DAY DO YOU THINK OF IT?

According to the Journal of Sex Research, thinking of sex daily is healthy! The study showed that men thought about sex 19 times a day whereas women thought about it 10 times a day on average.

Amy Levine, a sex educator claims that “people who tend to have no, or a low amount, of sexual thoughts and complain about it maybe depressed.”

The same study showed that people who have sex regularly, like couples, think about sex more frequently opposed to singles who sometimes dismiss it as a priority.

Looks like in this case too much of a good thing isn’t so bad!

ROMANCE STUDY:
LESS ATTRACTIVE MEN ARE BETTER HUSBANDS

For all the single ladies out there waiting for Mr. Perfect who is tall dark and handsome, you might want to think about it twice. Attractive men don’t make the best husbands studies say. Men blessed with good genes tend to have higher testosterone levels. These men are 43 percent more likely to get divorced and 38 percent more likely to cheat. On top of that, research shows that women are happier in relationships when they are better looking than the guy.

Another danger with attractive guys: On top of his looks, women are more attracted to guys in relationships because they have shown that they could commit – more temptation.

RELATIONSHIP TREND:
NEGOTIATING MONOGAMY

You all know it. Marriage ain’t what it used to be – half ending in divorce. Now the new trend that is emerging: couples negotiating monogamy. Couples aren’t ready to give up so fast – they are now compromising. Things like open relationships, warning of affairs before they happen and giving your partner a “free pass” are all gaining popularity.

It’s staying committed, without having to stay sexually faithful (if that makes sense.) A lot of couples are doing it. You may want to bring it up with your partner, even if you choose not to practice it. It’s a good way to talk about sex and marriage. It’s much better to talk about it and understand each other’s boundaries – rather than cheat, or live is desperation.

ROMANCE TREND:
PARTNER WITH SIMILAR EDUCATION LEVEL

A new study that finds people tend to marry people who have achieved similar levels of schooling. Psychologists say it could be that people marry people they meet in school. Others meet in the workplace, where they have similar backgrounds also end up together. It could also be that education guarantees a few other desirable things like high income and other life style traits, such as common hobbies, interests and abilities.

The study was based on Hollywood actors. They tend not to meet their partners in school, and their formal education has no bearing on their job or their professional success. For the study, they had a list of 140 married actor couples, then they then assessed the marital status and years of formal education achieved for each person.They noticed a pattern: top actors end up marrying people with similar educational backgrounds, whether that spouse is another famous actor,or a similar successful singer, model or musician, or a "regular" person.

Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes each have 12 years, a high school diploma. Will Ferrell and his wife, each have 16 years as do Julianne Moore and her husband. The Ivy-educated two-time Oscar-winner Meryl Streep has 19 years of education and is married to a sculptor who also 19 years from the Yale School of Art.

Of course, there are the exceptions. Julia Roberts has 12 years and husband Danny Moder has 16 years. Kevin Bacon 11 years while Kyra Sedgwick 16 years. Demi Moore has 10.5 years and Ashton Kutcher 14 years. The study also finds that more male actors have university degrees than female celebrities.

LIFESTYLE TREND:
RETRO-SEXUAL MEN

There is a new word making headlines these days. No longer are the metro-sexual men the ones in demand. Now women are calling for the old-fashioned real guy’s guy: the retro-sexual. Remember these guys? They had hair on their body, they didn’t preen that much, never used a blow dryer and actually enjoyed eating meat. Women are complaining to me about the state of the modern man. Modern men know nothing about the legendary brand of rugged, alcoholic masculinity.GQ Magazine's Glenn O'Brien has written a book called: How to be a Man

He says being a man is all about etiquette, politeness, fashion and manners. In case that wasn't enough guidance, a recent Esquire magazine article lists the attributes that are apparently required to be a real man. They include the following: real men should always carry cash, be able to cook eggs,
rebuild things, not point out that they did the dishes and never drink Sauvignon Blanc.

DATING:
WOMEN PREFER FUNNY MEN

Gentleman, it’s a fact, women prefer funny guys. We just do. Sixty five per cent of women surveyed said they are turned off by guys seeking physical perfection, 86 per cent citing vanity as one of the biggest turn-offs in a man. 1 in 4 men think a muscular, tanned physique is desirable but the fact of the matter is women prefer a man with a warm inner glow to hot looks. An astonishing 99 per cent of women prefer a funny guy with good manner to a perfect-looking guy.

WEDDING TRENDS:
HONEYMOON REGISTRIES

When it comes to weddings this year, registries are not what they used to be. Couples are skipping the silverware and registering for honeymoons instead. Eleven percent of couples registered in 2010 year for honeymoon-related gifts either in place of or in addition to traditional house items. Honeymoon registries have gained in popularity in the past five years, and in the past year or two, the concept has become more socially familiar and acceptable.

Most honeymoon registry sites have sprouted up online in the past decade.  The couple outlines a honeymoon itinerary, dividing the trip into increments covering things like airfare, hotel stays and activities - from scuba diving to candlelit dinners and couples massages. The couple, or an agent, ultimately books the trip and is responsible for paying each vendor. The registry mirrors what they have planned, earmarking funds for each component. It's a less obvious approach to giving cash. It's cash with a purpose.

Wedding guests can pick parts of the honeymoon trip to help fund. The registry then transfers that money to the couple. Some resorts, including Marriott and Disney, offer registries that give gift cards to the couple without fees. Generally, couples that do this are a little older, already live together or have been married before. Probably half of honeymoon registrants are getting married for the second time. The bottom line is that among the older, more modern, more cosmopolitan couples, it's very OK to them to do this sort of thing, especially when you already have all the traditional household items.

Harmony Walton owns The Bridal Bar a one-stop shop for all bridal needs. Harmony is one of the most informed wedding experts out there today. We sat down at her boutique here in LA. She says the other trend is being able to buy wedding items just about anywhere. Now we see companies like Nordstrom, Anthropology, J.Crew and even Costco getting into the wedding business and launching bridal salons within their stores.  We’ve also seen couture designers like Vera Wang and Monique Lhuillier take a step back from couture. While they still have those luxury lines they are also offering bridge lines. Vera Wang is doing a line for David’s Bridal now. 

WEDDING TRENDS:
POST-RECESSION CHANGES

So you’re going to a wedding and there is no band, no DJ.  They're playing an iPod but the music is still great. Is that proper today? Is it tacky or cost savvy, to be able to put the money somewhere else? Post recession, some wedding rules have changed. A new poll finds it is not tacky. I say it may not be as much fun as a band, but don’t consider it tacky. 63 per cent who were asked thought it was a good idea. Keep in mind, if you do this, you need to have a couple of friends or family in charge of the iPod. According to this poll, using a laptop is also acceptable.

Hollywood wedding expert extraordinaire author and TV host David Tutera says many are cutting costs.  There are now some photographers that take care of video as well, as opposed to finding two vendors thus cutting costs. Vendors are now forced to provide better pricing, and better quality product for the consumer. The industry, in the last five years, has grown. We’ve got more cake artists, more florists, more Dj’s, more bands. With so much competition there is a lot more choice for price comparison.

DATING TREND:
WHO’S PICKIN UP THE CHECK?

If you’re an attractive woman, are men more likely to want to pay when you’re on a date? A new study from the University of St. Andrews in the U.K. found that men find it easier to imagine paying for dinner if their companions happen to be pretty. Well, um, how shall we say this . . . duh? Here is where it gets interesting, though: the more attractive a man is, the more women expect him to pay. So, attractiveness might not work the same for both genders when it comes to paying up on a date.

Meanwhile, self-described attractive people of both genders are more likely to believe they deserve to be treated. This leads to a potentially interesting situation for ladies on dates with attractive men, if both wait for the other to do “the reach” when the check comes. Why this disparity? Researchers think it’s because women are more comfortable accepting resources from attractive men. We probably don’t want to be beholden to men that we’re not that into, so we’d rather split the check and get the heck out of there. Other results of the study confirmed what we already know: we all want to be treated, and women are more likely to expect men to take care of the check.

WHAT ‘REALLY’ IS A PATHOLOGICAL LIAR?

Now turning to a fascinating topic that I have researching in depth for 2 1/2 years now..and with all the headlines of some dark people with no integrity
“Pathological liars” are a topic I have sadly learned much about from the experts.

Would you know how to spot one?
Why can’t they tell the truth?

Well, we now know this:

Liars' brains are wired very differently from normal brains.

 

A University of Southern California study of pathological liars shows the first evidence of  differences in the structure of the brain - in the area that let's most people to feel

"remorse for other human beings and for their actions.”

 

In a three-dimensional MRI image of the brain, it’s
the first proof of brain abnormalities in people who lie all the time - and also those who cheat and manipulate.

When it comes to liars - past research had shown 
that there's heightened activity in the prefrontal cortex – that’s the area of the brain that lets most people to feel remorse or learn moral behavior.

This is now the first study to provide evidence of structural differences in people that lie a lot.

Liars have "histories" of conning others.

Researchers have told me that they are manipulative and they know they prey on people. They are very brazen in their manner but very cool when talking about it. I have lived this firsthand and know it to be true….so calm and cool in their speech that they can fool anyone around them.

I spoke in depth with Dr. Shari Corbitt of Promises Rehab facility in Malibu. She says alcoholism often goes hand in hand with lying and other addictions such as sex addiction or others.

Meantime....

Pathological liars can’t always tell truth from falsehood when speaking - and if they do - they do not see how it is to the rest of the normal world.

The researchers at the University of Southern California - used Magnetic Resonance Imaging to explore structural brain differences between the groups.

The liars had much more “white matter” and slightly less “gray matter” than those they were measured against.

Researchers found - the more white matter – the wiring in the brain – may provide liars with the tools necessary to master the complex art of deceit.

Lying takes a lot of effort. It’s almost mind reading.

They have to be able to understand the mindset of the other person. 

The liar has to suppress their emotions or regulate them because they don’t want to appear nervous and the higher the IQ the worse predator they are.

There’s quite a lot to do. They've got to suppress the truth. How horrible, empty, sad and superficial this existence must be.  

Researchers say –

The more networking there is in the prefrontal cortex, the more the person has an "upper hand" in lying. 

Their verbal skills are higher. They’ve almost got a natural advantage.

The study found that liars are people with a surplus of "white" matter and less "gray" matter. 

That means:

They have more tools to lie AND have fewer moral restraints than normal people.

They’ve got the equipment to lie, and they don’t have the inhibition that the rest of us have in telling big lies.

“When people make moral decisions, they are relying on their prefrontal cortex.”

When people ask normal people to make moral decisions, researchers see activation in the front of the brain BUT liars have a just 14 percent reduction in the gray matter - they are less likely to care about moral issues or they are less likely to be able to "process" moral issues. They sadly need more grey matter.

Be careful. Stay safe.
Ann

ROMANCE TIP:
LET HIM/HER LOOK

Everybody knows nothing is more desirable than something you’re not allowed to have. Research shows that if your partner’s got a wandering eye, you’re better offer letting them look. Studies show that men and women in relationships who don’t notice attractive strangers tend to be more satisfied in their own relationships and tend to stay in them longer. However, that blindness has to come naturally, it cannot be something you force on your partner. It results in a “backlash” effect.

It’s human nature, everybody wants the job they can’t get or the car they can’t afford and it’s no different when it comes to relationships. People may desire attractive alternatives more and desire their current relationship partner less when they are placed in situations that they feel limited in it. So, if they feel like they can look, the desire subsides. The research shows those prevented from looking at attractive faces report less relationship satisfaction and more positive attitudes toward infidelity than people who were allowed to peep.

RELATIONSHIP TRENDS:
FEMALE INFIDELITY ON THE RISE

Cheating has always been one of the hardest things to recover from in committed relationships. It used to be mainly men committing adultery, but now more and more women are being unfaithful. The way women cheat, the reasons why they cheat and the outcome of women cheating is different than if a man was doing it.It is a lot more damaging to the relationship when a woman cheats. Obviously, male cheating is definitely harmful, but when women fool around it normally leads to the death of the couple’s relationship.Men cheat for sex. Women cheat for love. Men can easily separate sex and emotion, while women usually need to have emotional feelings for a person before wanting to have sex with them.  It is a lot easier for man to get involved with someone with whom he has no feelings. Yes there are some men who cheat in search of an emotional connection, but often men who cheat on their wives have no intention of leaving their primary relationship.  Therefore, if a man cheats, there is a better chance the couple will stay together.For men, cheating is more opportunistic. There was no emotional trigger, they were at the wrong place at the wrong time.For women, it is more deeply felt and they go looking for it. A woman who cheats is often a woman who doesn’t want to work it out. She’s already invested time trying, and she’s done. It’s too late.

Female infidelity is becoming more and more popular, especially for those who have their own careers and financial independence. Women who earn over $75 thousand or more per year are 1.5 times more likely to have sex out of their marriage than those earning less than $30 thousand.46 percent of women and 62 percent of men cheat with people they’ve met through work
Here are some signs that a woman could be cheating or thinking about it:

DATING TREND:
ONE RELATIONSHIP COSTS TWO FRIENDS

According to a new study there is a price to pay for falling in love. If love is something you want, be ready to cough it up. Everybody has an average of five people as their close circle. When falling in love, the circle shrinks by two people. Essentially, one relationship will cost you two friends. This may be unknowingly why some people are hesitant to commit to a relationship – subconsciously they know they’ll have to give up certain things and people currently in their lives. Selfish people don’t want to give up a thing for love

Dr. Mark Goulston is a psychiatrist, trained hostage-negotiator for the FBI and bestselling author whose books include Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone, Get Out of Your Own Way,  Get Out of Your Own Way at Work and The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship.

The problem with modern marriage is that we don’t have relationships anymore. The relating part of relationships has been removed and we have trans-actionships. Everything is a negotiation and everyone doesn’t want to lose. When your relationship takes the relating out and replaces it with this, you both lose.

He suggests going to a restaurant, and looking at the couple who’s in their 60’s that doesn’t talk to each other; they’re bored with each other, they tolerate each other and they only time they could start a conversation is after half a bottle of wine is consumed. Then look at the couple who aren’t having an affair, have wedding rings on, who look into each other’s eyes with warmth and they listen to each other. It’s not rocket science. What does couple two do all the time, and what do you think they never do? They listen to each other, they’re respectful and they don’t hold onto grudges.

MARRIAGE TREND:
FINANICAL INFIDELITY

A new study shows that 30% of couples are committing  “financial infidelity.”  That is, lying to their spouses about money. More and more couples are doing it and it’s sadly becoming the norm. Obviously the dishonesty causes damage to the relationship.

Here are some interesting stats:
16% of couples affected by financial infidelity led to divorce
11% caused separation

The most common lies:

58%, was hiding cash.
54% admitted to hiding a minor purchase
30% hid a bill
16% did not disclose a major purchase
15% hid a bank account. 

STUDY:
PEOPLE IN LOVE FEEL LESS PAIN

Poetry has always said that love is the cure to any pain  - now science has proved it. It’s been shown that love taps into a brain pathway that makes us feel so euphoric that we ignore pain.  Love works through the same pathway as painkillers and addictive drugs like heroin and cocaine.

Love has the same effect on brain systems as would an intensely rewarding experience like winning the lottery. A study that inflicted pain on the respondents showed a major correlation: the more time they previously spent thinking about their partners, the greater the pain relief.

Those who spent more than half of the day thinking about their significant other experienced three times less pain than others. On the other end of the spectrum, when love is not reciprocated, it’s tragic and is a major cause of suicide and depression.

DATING TREND:
MATCHMAKING "A LA CARTE DATING"

A recent Nielsen poll found one in four adults have used the internet to find a partner and another 38% are considering using online dating.

Of those who had used online dating, 33.6% reported a short-term relationship, and 16.2% said they had a long-term relationship. As the baby boomers age, divorce, and widow, this 500-million dollar industry continues to become more and more lucrative.  

 

In Montreal - the big thing now is matchmaking.

Patty Shapiro is the President of A La Carte Dating, a dating agency in Montreal.

She personally, is not a fan of online dating at all. She calls it nothing more than a shopping sport.

She says dating now is really back to basics with matchmaking. For about 15 years people have been resorting to online dating. About 50% of the adult population is single so you would think that the success rate would be higher in finding your soul mate.

Online dating is becoming more and more dangerous and less and less honest. One in ten online users is actually a scammer, and one in five is married. Let’s face it. It’s easy to hide behind a computer and pretend you’re something you’re not.

There are a lot of common denominators between men and women when it comes to online dating – a lot of people think it’s just men or just women looking online but internet dating is notorious for cheating for sexes. It has really turned up as a shopping sport.

She says a lot of people are now using dating agencies. The singles are lot more proactive in their dating lives than they used to be. 48% of men and 52% if women have used a dating agency to increase their odds. They are seeing that this is really where it’s going and have stopped relying on luck alone.

Some tips that Patty has for the men:

Try and relax, and don’t pretend to be someone you’re not; a lot of men do that. A very common problem with men is that they don’t express themselves, they need to learn how to do it, the communication is lacking.

It might not be all their fault. Men have had a lot of bad programming from their past from their parents, their peers, their religion – they’ve almost been set up for failure.

Most importantly, confidence is the key. Women don’t like insecure and unmanly men.

Now for the ladies:

Some mistakes that women make when dating include talking too much about their past, about their exes, and money.  A lot of women come off as needy and desperate, and tend to be manipulative.

Men need a lot of praise. Women generally don’t know how much and how to do it.  Another thing about women is go back to their old boyfriends. You broke up the first time for a reason – try and avoid this at all costs!

 

If you’d like to give matchmaking a try, you could reach Montreal’s matchmaker Patty Shapiro at A La Carte Dating.

You could visit her website at www.pattyshapiro.com/dating or you can her directly at 514.389.5627. 

BREAKING UP:
DIVORCE STATISTICS

A new finding shows that women are much poorer than men after a marriage breakdown but men are much lonelier, sadder and their mental health is more fragile immediately after the separation.

Within four years, however, men have begun to recover emotionally while women's incomes have gone backwards - women are much poorer financially, men are much poorer socially.

Men's income is almost 20% higher four years after separation, but women's income is 2% lower. Separated men are more likely than women to call themselves ''poor'' and to complain of financial hardship.

A year after divorce, 48% of men who had not found a new partner reported often feeling very lonely compared with 39% of the single women.

Men are much less likely than women to report feeling satisfied with their life in the year after the break-up. Numbers for the men pick up three years later with 42% of men feeling satisfied and 52% for women.

Here's the most shocking news: even four years after a divorce, those who separated were less happy than couples who never divorced.

WEIGHTLOSS TREND:
SEX-FOR-LIFE DIET

Now turning to the diet that's said to improve your sex life. They say there are 10 super sex foods that will help make things better.





1. Eggs
2. Celery
3. Vanilla Ice Cream
4. Brazil Nuts
5. Liver
6. Peaches
7. Blueberries
8. Cereal
9. Steak
10. Chocolate


EGGS
Eggs are said to lower anxiety. A plateful of eggs on the morning of your date, are a good source of B vitamins to keep your mind stress-free with no jitters.

CELERY
Celery has two pheromones to make you more attractive. When you chew a stalk of celery, you release odor molecules into your mouth. They then travel up the back of your throat to your nose. Once there, the pheromones boost your arousal, turning you on and causing your body to send off scents and signals that make you more desirable. Grab the celery from the Bloody Mary and munch away. The pheromones take effect immediately, so you should notice people around you paying more attention to you right away.

VANILLA ICE CREAM
Ice cream is an endurance food with high levels of calcium and phosphorus, two minerals that build muscles' energy reserves and boost your libido. A study conducted at Chicago's Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation found that when men smell the scent of vanilla, it relaxes them, reducing inhibitions.

BRAZIL NUTS, LIVER AND PEACHES
These are all said to help sperm count and quality.

CEREAL
Cereal has lots of thiamin and riboflavin that help use energy efficiently, so no stopping or falling asleep on your date.

CHOCOLATE
A couple of pieces of dark chocolate are great because the cocoa in chocolate contains, stimulants that increase your body's sensitivity—ensuring that your skin registers even the slightest touch or movement against it.

MEN TAKE RISKS: FOR WOMEN


Now let's focus on men and how they flirt with risk these days and why they do. . . Why?? Because studies show - they think it will help them get women.

Men make up 4/5th's of the world's skydivers and 2/3rd's of all rock climbers, and a new study suggests they do it for more than just the thrill. Women are choosier about men than men are about women.

The pressure forces males to work harder to prove their worth to females and out-compete other guys in the running. Social psychologists at Florida State University wondered: Could risk-taking be one of the ways in which men show off their strength, ambition and confidence to potential lovers?

134 undergraduate psychology students took part in an experiment. Psychologists wanted to see whether men would take more risks if they thought there were beautiful women around for them to woo. They showed men pictures of either 10 attractive or 10 unattractive faces.. What they found: Men were much more likely to take risks if they were sexually motivated. Guys who saw attractive faces, but weren't sexually motivated, did not, take more risks.

HOT TREND: WOMEN RATHER HAVE COMPUTER OVER SEX


So you think men are workaholics?

Nearly one out of 2 women, 46% of them, would rather give up sex for 2 weeks than go without their computer. Far fewer men would go without sex. According to a survey of 21 hundred people - only 30% of men say they'd rather forge sex than the computer. 95% say it's very important to access the internet. 65% rate internet access above other discretionary spending items such as cable TV subscriptions, dining out, shopping for clothing and a health club membership. 61% of women would rather give up watching TV for 2 weeks than give up the internet for 1 week.

SEX TREND: BALANCE OF POWER


We start this weeks show looking at the balance of power between the sexes. When it comes to male dominence in relationships, it depends on the country you live in. In a survey of over 48 countries – individual attitudes to sex vary widely. One reason for this: the higher the number of men relative to women in a particular society, then the less promiscuous the culture. For example: In East Asian countries such as China, Japan and South Korea, where the population is heavily male-biased, there is relatively little interest in uncommitted, casual sex.

Meanwhile, urban areas of the US and Canada, with low ratios of men to women, there is a high level of short-term relationships and divorce."If 'good men' - those who are attractive, faithful, well-resourced, generous - are few, then there is very high competition between women to secure them as long-term mates. This means men can call the shots and what men usually want is casual sex. However, most women want a stable partnership, at least when it comes to having children, and they can demand such a relationship if men substantially out number women, because it's harder for men to move on to new pastures.

It is a kind of sexual marketplace - where - whichever sex is in demand, that's the sex with the power.

PRIVATE INVESTIGATORS: HIRE ONE BEFORE YOU MARRY


Worried about who your next mate might be? You might want to follow the lead of the Chinese. It's a relationship trend that's catching on... In China....The Chinese are increasingly turning to private detectives to check out prospective spouses before they tie the knot. China Daily reports that in some cases parents will also want to make sure that their children will not get any nasty surprises after marriage. The detectives check available financial records, shadow targets following them and sometimes try to socialize with their friends to find out how others view them. When it comes to hiring one, look for experience. Some private investigators have little or no investigative background. There are those who have retired from a law enforcement or military career and decide that being a "private investigator" would be action packed and exciting. They enroll in some Private Detective school and after two months, they become a P.I. Not always qualified. It's important that you know the qualifications and experience of the investigator that will be working on your case. The more experienced the investigator, the greater your desired results will be achieved. You don't want a 20 year old with a video camera conducting surveillance for you. Get someone who does this type of surveillance regularly and has a corproration that flys under the radar.

Former FBI agents and former secret service are the best.